Reality Check

This past week in Las Vegas was a real eye opener for me, and possibly Tommy as well, when it comes to marriage. Most likely, in a great way for us, and, not so great for others.

Don't get me wrong, Tommy and I have had our share of issues. I will just spell it out... S T U P I D issues that have caused turmoil, but who doesn't right?

Thankfully, I really think that Tommy and I have learned from others' mistakes and try to side step problems before they even come along. Plus I really think that it helps that we actually like each other. I know that sounds funny but I know a lot, and I am talking A LOT of couples that stay married for stupid reasons and they don't even like one another. We don't stay together because of church or state and we surely don't stay together for kids or money. I love this man like there is no tomorrow. After this weekend, I think all of our friends realized what a happy marriage really is.

I think it was on the party bus, Thursday night, when I was first asked how long Tommy and I have been married. Now remember, I did not know anyone on the bachelorettes side, except for one girl from our gym and we were simply, "acquaintances," for lack of a better word, before this weekend. When I told all the girls we have been married 11 years next month every single one of their mouths hit the floor. I must have gotten 50, "Oh my gosh, you two still hold hands and the way he kisses you......." and the, "Wow, that is awesome, especially after everything you two have gone through. Most husbands would have bailed after your accident." I think the best was, at the end of the night at stUdio 54 in the MGM when one of my new favorite friends Lisa said, "My God girl, you are so lucky. That man loves you. The way he looks at you. ONLY YOU. The way he touches your cheek and neck when he kisses you and tells everyone that you are his wife. He loves you DeAnna. He REALLY loves you!"

It made my heart melt for others to see what I sometimes look straight through and miss on a busy daily basis.

So, after all was said and done this weekend, I can not tell you how many of our friends, that are in marriages and or relationships that I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy, made the comments, "what I wouldn't give to have what you two have!" and "when I am married, I want my marriage to be just like you two."

I loved the compliments, albeit, our marriage is perfect only for us.

And besides, you can't have a marriage like ours...

It is soooo taken and I am not giving it up .........EVER!