HURTS.
I am thinking that, maybe, just maybe, "honesty is the best policy," may not be all that.
Honesty is good. Honesty is right. Honesty is a trait I think everyone should strive for. But.....
At what point do you realize that sometimes honesty can be down right destructive to a heart. So destructive that the heart feels like it has been ripped out, shredded and then shoved back down your throat in a feeble attempt to make it all "better."
What if that honesty destroys someone?
What if it crushes their soul and tramples their idea of what they thought they had?
What if that honesty ruins them in a way that, well, no one will ever really see but will notice that the "something" that made them special or made them, "them" is simply non-existent now?
What if that honesty was thrown out during a time when tempers were heated? And that honesty changes everything. And you can't go back. And you can't take it back, because it was the truth. And looking forward is not an option at this very moment because you are physically drained, in shock, scared, emotionally stunned, and you feel numb?
What if that, "honesty," was not the best policy and somehow it is too late?
PS. TOMORROW IS TODAY AND IT STILL AIN'T BETTER. TOMORROW WILL BE BETTER. I KNOW IT!
Monday, July 20, 2009
The truth...
Posted by DEANNA on Monday, July 20, 2009
Quick organizing Another bad day
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DeAnna~ I know I am that crazy friend that reads blogs at ungodly hours, but I would call you right now if it weren't so early. Expect a call later. I love you!
I don't think there is every a question of the rightfulness of truth. The question lies in whether it should be spoken at all, and in how to deliver it. I'm not one for replacing truth with anything else, no matter how painful, but I do strive to deliver with respect. That said, I am a classic bad mood deliverer. Meaning, while I'm at my most selfish, I spew thoughtlessly. *sigh*
Trish, you are a doll. thank you for the attempted phone calls this morning! You amaze me all the time how caring you are. Dang it woman, you were on your way to slide rock and you worried about me... lazy me who was still wallowing in bed. (Albeit I had Binky next to me who rubbed my back until I fell asleep last night)
We will talk!
Can you talk about it?
Here is my take on honesty.... from the painfully honest perspective.
With those you love the most, and who love you back, you owe the honest truth. And timing is helpful, but whatever happened, happened.
Love forgives, even when you think it's not possible. Those who love most, forgive the biggest.
I once had to be honest with someone I love very much. My burden was gone and rightfully so, but that person was left with the rock I had been carrying so long. They frankly forgave me and the relationship got exponentially better after that.
I can't stand that you are so down. Dan is on shift tonight. Can I come by?
602-300-2224
Happy Happy Birthday! (I hate my birthday, but I know other people like theirs. I hope you are one of those.
And a birthday lunch is very much on the schedule. Let's go Monday if we can.
Beth
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